UNLEASHING THE POWER OF EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE IN RELATIONSHIPS AND WORK PLACE.
Emotional intelligence is the secret of a lasting intimate relationships, it creates the awareness of the whole changes that consistently appear in our lives and that of others. Through this awareness, we can actively take notice of changes (both big and small) that needs immediate actions.
Emotional intelligence is seen as the ability to put yourself in another person’s shoes. These qualities help an individual to communicate their needs and meet their partners need as well as navigate relationship conflicts effectively.
Dating a partner who feels a lot isn’t easy. It’s always overwhelming to keep emotions to oneself and act like it was cool going with the flow. It’s always advised that couples communicate well. Different environments can induce different levels of certain aspects of emotional intelligence.
Most times emotional needs are not the problem, the problem is struggling to communicate those needs and lack of emotional intelligence to understand and met them.
Generally, people with high emotional intelligence know what’s going on with themselves and are good at expressing it. They have high social awareness and adaptability.
Couples with matching levels of emotional intelligence tend to be happier and stay together longer. if the partner with lower emotional intelligence is willing to improve themselves and both partners are committed to making the relationship work, it can get better.
Someone can be successful at work but have a poor relationship quality, meaning emotional intelligence isn’t developed uniformly.
There are ways to spot emotional intelligence in a partner:
- They are self-aware: if you can’t identify your own emotions, it’s very unlikely that you’re able to identify them in someone else.
- They’re curious about you: they are more likely to be open minded and curious about, meaning they are flexible in thinking.
- They’re self-sufficient: they know their body and emotions, which allows them to meet their own needs.
- They have good boundaries: when people are self-aware, they know what boundaries to set. But allowing emotions to override rational judgement and overlooking bad behaviors is a sign of underdeveloped emotional intelligence.
- They have healthy, lasting, non-romantic relationships: if your partner has longstanding friendships and is close with their family, it’s likely that have learned what works and what doesn’t.
There is a need to avoid Choosing wrong partners, having multiple failed marriages, and failed romance. We need to avoid conflicting needs and wants to come between two people. The ability to share emotional experience will help partners attain the type of love, intimacy, commitment and care they both deserve.
Always seek for change in every relationship. Any relationship not nudged towards the kind of growth you want will drift into change. The ability to embrace change is very important
The changes are opportunities not problems. When your emotional intelligence is high, you see yourself being resourceful in solving problems. You don’t blame each other for their emotions and you are not controlled by negative emotions.
Always respect each other’s feelings. Being in love doesn’t mean you will never feel angry, disappointed, hurt, or jealous. How you act towards your emotions is important. Many relationships have been ruined by blames, and shame has cost some intimacy. when you build emotional intelligence, it will help you experience emotions to get by anything.
Keep the laughter in your relationship. A big part of acceptance comes from laughter. If you can’t laugh with your partner it means, there is no acceptance. You can keep improving your relationship, but you will never get trapped by intolerant expectations of perfection.
Pay attention to how you feel when partner is not around. There are ways of monitoring exactly how your relationship is going. If you don’t feel energetic, clear headed, and benevolent all the time, it doesn’t really matter whether you are cool like doves when you’re together.
Listen to your body not your mind. We choose our partners for how we think but not how we feel. We conduct our relationships based on how things should be or have been. This is exactly where we go wrong. People think they are in love for many reasons like lust, infatuation, desire for security, status, or social acceptance. They feel they found true love because the current prospect fulfills some image or expectation. But unless they know how they feel, their choice is destined to be wrong.
Take a chance on reaching out. Most times we often on guard with someone new, and we automatically build barriers to getting to know each other. being vulnerable at this stage can be scary. It’s the only way to find out if real love is possible. try being the first to reach out. If their reaction fills you with warmth, you may have found an empathic soul.
We don’t grow emotional muscle at the same rate. There are ways to respond to emotional behaviors.
Take time to consider the feelings as well as the words that you want your partner to hear.
Select a time when you and your partner are not hassled.
Send messages about your needs.
If your partner reacts defensively to the feeling you express, repeat concern, be assertive in your communication.